9 years…

I can tell you…if a genie grant me a wish to go back — I wouldn’t change anything.

Look, my marriage hasn’t been peaches & cream or a fairytale marriage — but I can say with a 100% certainty that no other female will give me what my wife has given/gives me, will make me happy, and will love me like she does.


  1. When my mother told me “I was a mistake”… I started to develop this mentality that “love” was just a fairytale; I didn’t “love” anyone or even myself — my wife was able to show me that “love” really exist…not this cheap motel love…but true love“. You see the definition in my eyes of “true love” is when you are patient, when you genuinely care, when you have consideration, when you do things expecting nothing in return, etc…
  2. My wife woke up that “fighting spirit” that I was taught since childhood — in my wife eyes “quitting” is not an option.
  3. My wife has taught me that happiness starts with “you” — we are all unique…but that uniqueness, that difference, is what makes us very interesting individuals…none of us are “dull”; so don’t be told otherwise.
  4. My wife has re-energized my passion for success — she tells me, “that you shouldn’t complain about your lifestyle; unless, you’re ready to do something about it…”


  1. Her smarts — without her…I can say that I wouldn’t accomplish a lot that I have accomplished
  2. Her beauty — let me tell you…her beauty is outside, as well as inside
  3. Her dedication — she doesn’t know how to “quit” (which is good)
  4. Her passion — she is the most passionate individual I have met to date
  5. Her motherhood — there are excellent, superb, great, etc… mothers out there…and our kids are blessed to have one of them
  6. Her “can do” spirit — she doesn’t let anyone (not even me) tell her what she can/cannot do…she believes that anyone can do anything no matter their gender
  7. Her “fight for justice” — she doesn’t believe in injustice…and she will “fight” until justice is given

I had nothing (I mean no job, money, housing,etc…) and my wife didn’t care — she loved me not for what I had or was able to offer (which wasn’t that much)… but for who I was. I will say that I am a blessed man for having this woman in my life…

I had 9 good years…and I planned to have, 9,10,15,50 years more — I love you, and “thank you” for these 9 years…



I will be back in January 2012…

It has been awhile — as we quickly approach to close this year; I want to take this moment to thank several people.

First & foremost, I want to say “thank you” to God for allowing me to overcome the Cerebellum Stroke I had on February 6th, 2011. I want to thank my wife for standing by my side in this challenging year, to my kids for believing in my “don’t give up” spirit, and my family for cheering me on.

I want to thank Jules Ferguson for giving me the honor to write the foreword to his upcoming book, Claudia Baier for allowing me to be a guest speaker in her coaching session, & Pete (our mailman) for allowing God to use him to save my spiritual life from destruction.

This year I have lost a lot — at the same time I have been blessed to meet many wonderful people, and new wisdom & understanding in the Lord…

I have a special thanks to all the wonderful readers that have read this blog — please continue sharing, so that others may be blessed as you have been.

Thank you…and I will be back posting on January 3rd, 2012.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving, a blessed Christmas, and a great New Years…

If you have ideas on what should be posted when I come back — please send me an email at jonathan.baez82@gmail.com…

Hasta el ano nuevo…I want to leave you with this prayer:

Prayer of Saint Francis

 Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.

Where there is hatred, let me sow love.

Where there is injury, pardon.

Where there is doubt, faith.

Where there is despair, hope.

Where there is darkness, light.

Where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master,

grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console;

to be understood, as to understand;

to be loved, as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive.

It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,

and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.



Never Forgotten…

This Sunday will be a decade (10 years) that we lost a lot of brave men/women on the tragic September 11th, 2001. The attack left us numb–feeling hopeless as we watched the planes hit the towers, and the people plunge to their death. Fear crept into our soul–pain embraced us; anger overpower us.

We cried, screamed, and cursed–we were afraid of going out, flying, getting on a train/bus, or going to the subway. We needed to hear words of hope, we needed to be lifted up again, we needed to hear words of courage.

What this group of extremist did was uncalled for–a lot of innocent casualties. On May the leader of this tragic attack was brought to justice–when he was killed by our soldiers.

This Sunday they will have a remembrance ceremony in NYC–the entire United States of America will take a moment of silence to remember all those brave men/women we lost.

I want to take this moment to tell all of my readers that they (the men/women that died on September, 11th 2001) may not be with us physically–but they are with us in spirit. Their braveness & courageous spirit in the midst of chaos will be spoken of for generations to come.  They were taken from us before their time…but no matter how much it pains me, how much their non-existence breaks my heart–they will NEVER BE FORGOTTEN

Bless all the families that where affected on September, 11th 2011–and keep our men/women who are fighting overseas safe and bring them back home.

A poem of remembrance:

In Remembrance

A flag of honor, a flag for reflection
It stands for us all uniting this nation.
It will keep in our minds this tragic day,
Memories of such heroic acts shall not go away.

As we look on this flag of cloth and thread,
A field of bright red for the blood that was shed.
Not just on this day of lasting memories,
But for lives that were given throughout history.

Two towers of strength that rose up so high,
Reaching for dreams, they stretched to the sky.
They lay now in ruin at the hands of hate,
Great symbols of our nation have met this fate.

Our nation’s military housed in a fortress of steel;
We’re reminded this day that war is so real.
Hitting the heart of our power and might,
Rise up America, this terror we must fight!

Stars that shine on a field of bright blue,
Remind us of heroes with hearts so true.
An ordinary day, it had started out to be,
Soon their lives would be given for you and me.

A circle is drawn to stand for our nation’s unity,
A nation coming together through such tragedy.
A reminder is given for all of America to see,
That our freedom is never really free.

“God Bless America” is written in white,
Make this your prayer each and every night.
God is always with us, He knows our needs
Bring America back to God, should be our decree.

Much was given, many were lost on this day,
A man of terror tried to take our spirit away.
Do not let our new found spirit and unity fade,
As you look on this flag, remember this day …

By: © Lt. Tom Robinson, Wilmington, NC Firefighter

Is it worth it…

Since I started this blog back in March–I wanted to write this post. The reason being that I grew up/ was around “complainers”…Let me explain before I get murdered (LOL)

I believe there are two sets of people, (1) the doers–meaning no matter what comes their way, what obstacles arise, or how many times they get thrown to the ground…they get up and continue fighting; they don’t give up. Because they know that “giving up” is not worth it, they understand what is at stake, they believe that there is hope no matter how it looks, and they are fighters not quitters…You see every great leader, motivational speaker–everyone had their obstacle; their big mountain to climb. The doers look at the mountain, don’t question “how they are going to climb it” or ” are they going to reach the top”–they just climb; and hours, days, weeks, months, or years later they reach the top. Meaning they accomplished their dream, or goal; they reach their success.

Then you have (2) the complainers–meaning that they become complacent with their lives; but complain about it. I don’t understand this set of people–they want a lot (which isn’t bad), but they don’t want to fight for it. It’s like a baseball player–he wants a home-run; but doesn’t want to swing a bat/ a football player–he wants a touchdown; but doesn’t want the football. This may sound harsh…my words may make you stop reading my posts; but I am going to say it anyways, “stop complaining, nobody wants hear it (especially in Facebook); and change it…ask yourself is giving up on your dreams, quitting, not fighting for what you believe is right, living paycheck-to-paycheck, always being broke, being overwhelmed by the bills, having a partner not believing in you, surrounding yourself by negative people, hating every one, hating those that commit harm to you, or not being happy–Is it worth it”…

If the answer is “yes”–stop complaining, and live your life to the fullest; cause you never know when it’s your last day…

If the answer is “no”–stop complaining, and change it; cause you never know when it’s your last day…

You see I/others can turn blue telling you don’t give up, you can buy a lot of motivational books, or listen to a lot of motivational talk–but none of this will help you, if you don’t start doing something about it…meaning the CHANGE starts with you, and only you…

So ask yourself these (2) questions–1. Which set do I belong too? 2. Is it worth it? Thank you for letting me write this post–and I want to let you know that if many people before & in the present have accomplished their success; no matter what came their way…then you too my reader & friend can accomplish your success.

I gave my life to become the person I am right now. Was it worth it? ~ Richard Bach

I want to take this moment to say “thank you” to all the wonderful readers, commentators, and the wonderful people who allowed me to feature them in my blog–I will not be posting until September 6th, 2011; Once again “thank you” & see ya on September 6th, 2011…

Not being nice…

Look I am going to tell you how it is–life doesn’t care whether your Black, Latino, man/woman, rich/poor…it’s going to throw curve balls your way. Life is going to be mean to you sometimes, it’s going to be cruel, it’s going to be painful–but only those that overcome achieve their dreams…

If you don’t want to be successful; that’s fine. The only thing I have to say is don’t complain about your current situation–we don’t want to hear it. If you are going to complain do something about it–many of us didn’t like being broke, growing up poor, growing up in the “ghetto”, having violence surround us, or watching friends/family die–so we did something about it…

Achieving your dream is going to be tough–you will have obstacles stand in your way, you will have fear telling you it can’t be accomplished, you will have pain holding you back, and you will doubt your abilities to achieve…but if you “don’t give up”–I can guarantee you that it’s worth it. Everyone can help, guide, or tell you how to accomplish your dreams–but only “you” can choose to accomplish it or not, only you can fight, only you will have to overcome all that life throws your way…

It’s true what those that accomplish their dreams say, “…this road was & still is tough”–you see once you accomplished your dream; you have to keep it…

For example, I felled “head over heels” madly in “love” with my wife–I was honored to get married to her, but now that I am married to her, I have to keep her till death do us apart. Is it tough “yes”, do I/her bump heads with each other “yes”, do I/her want to leave or kill (LOL) the other partner sometimes “yes”–but no matter what I love her, want to be with her, she makes me happy–so therefore no matter what marriage throws my way, no matter what–I will not give up, I will continue fighting; cause I wanted her, I have her, and now I am not letting her go(until she leaves)

It’s hard–you will cry, scream, doubt your abilities, be angry with yourself/and the world, feel like you are sacrificing a lot, lose a lot of good friends/family in the process–but, if you continue fighting, if you “don’t give up”, if you persevere…the pot of gold at the end of that rainbow, it’s worth it.

So, what do I do to accomplish my dreams? I am glad you ask–simple, stop complaining about your current situation and do something about it…It all begins with you, and it ends when you say it’s over…

Sorry for being mean, but somebody had to tell you the truth–have a good weekend!

What is success…

Based on dictionary.com–the definition is:

suc·cess [suhk-ses]

  1. the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors.
  2. the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.
  3. a successful  performance or achievement: The play was an instant success.
  4. a person or thing that is successful: She was a great success on the talk show.
  5. Obsolete . outcome.

It could mean having a family, finishing school, getting a  new career, being rich, or anything else that makes you happy–key words: “makes you happy”. You can’t have success in your life if you are not happy…

Let me break it down:

If your dream is to become the worlds greatest surgeon–and you are a nurse, then you haven’t become successful; because your dream was to be a surgeon not a nurse. Some individuals may say well things happened and that’s why I didn’t become a surgeon–I said “so what”. Yes! Things happen in life, obstacles will arise, storms come your way when you are trying to become successful–but I bet you it wasn’t easy for Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, or Larry Page & Sergey Brin; but they didn’t give up and now Microsoft Windows owns the computer market, Facebook is a popular social network site, and Google is the number 1 search engine…

I will be the first to say that certain dreams may have to be re-arranged–meaning you may not be able to go to medical school full-time if you have a family. But, I am also saying that success is at your fingertips all you have to do is “not give up”

Look success is whatever makes you happy–so as long as you aren’t happy, complaining about your lifestyle, or constantly upset with your surroundings. I hate to burst your bubble, but you my friend aren’t successful.

Do you remember how it felt when you got your high school diploma, you got married, you had your first child, etc…that feeling of joy, that sense of accomplishment, and that emotion of closing a chapter of your life. That my readers is what success feels like–is it a hard road? I am not going to lie it is; but only those that don’t have a faint heart grab it. Once you taste a little bit of success you want more of it–it’s like when you are thirsty; you want something to drink to quench that thirst…

Readers, anyone can be successful no matter what is your situation–let me give you some pointers to accomplish success in your life:

  1. Become yourself–what I mean, stop being who you aren’t and be happy with “you”.
  2. Remove the negativity–what I mean strip yourself of anyone/anything that is negative and causing harm in your life.
  3. Do what you like–what I mean stop doing what others want you to do, and start doing what you want to do.
  4. What is your dream–what I mean figure out what is that dream of yours; what will fill that “void” in your life.
  5. Fight–what I mean is that in order to reach success you have to overcome whatever life throws your way.
  6. Don’t give up–what I mean is that no matter how hard, painful, fearful, or gut-wrenching it gets don’t “give up”.
  7. Believe–what I mean is don’t stop believing in yourself; don’t let anyone/anything make you doubt you.
  8. Determination–what I mean is that no matter how long it takes, stick to it and don’t “quit”.
  9. It’s almost there–what I mean success is not far away.
  10. Success–what I mean is once you get it don’t let it go.
Is hard to reach success and keep it…but readers once you have it–you will love it and trust me you won’t let it go…
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.  ~Booker T. Washington


When I was young I attended church–and every Sunday the same people will go to the altar for healing…I would ask, “Didn’t God already healed them?” I started wondering what they were doing that was delaying their healing–I mean they went to church every time, they prayed at least 4 times a day, they read the bible–they was living a “righteous” life according to what the pastor preached…so “why” they haven’t been healed…“Did God really wanted to heal them or not?” So I began to investigate (I know I should have left it alone; but I am curious…LOL) come to find out that they were living like sick people…

What I mean is that they profess with their mouth that they were healed–but they believed with their heart that they were still sick…Let me break this down. When you have faith that something is going to occur, there are two steps you take 1) You profess with your mouth 2) You act/live on what you profess

Let me get spiritual for a minute…

When you profess in faith that object/request has already been developed in the spiritual realm (only if God wants you to have the object/request…let me explain, sometimes we don’t know why God didn’t give us this or that…is because everything we ask is not good for us) Now, it is up to you to act/live like you already received it–let me give you an example…

Example: (This is only an example)

Profession of Faith: I profess that by 2011 with God’s help all my old bills are going to get paid…

Action: Now I should start living a frugal life, cutting down on my current expenses, or even taking out some money a week to put towards my old bills. Instead I continue spending excessive, living above my means, and creating more expenses…

Quick Question: How do you plan to pay off those old bills if you have no control over the current bills?

Some people believe that when you profess something in faith, God is going to grant you that request without you doing anything…My reader that’s not how faith works–you have to profess it, and then you have to act/live in what you profess…

Sometimes it is not God that is holding your blessing–sometimes it’s you with the actions you are committing; remember you can’t say you want to be rich, but think like a poor person…you can’t say you want to be successful in life, but give up when the first storm arises…

So my readers, I am going to share with you what a good friend shared with me: Ask what you want, live like you got it, then if God thinks is good for your spiritual growth, you will have it…

Have a blessed weekend…this upcoming week the topic is on success.